When Love Is Real, It Doesn’t Have to Be Forced You Can’t Control Someone Else’s Free Will Trying to get a man to change is one of the quickest ways to wear yourself out in a relationship. Free will is a gift from God, and we have to become very real about how it shows up when we’re dealing with people we care about. A lot of women are praying that God will step in and override a man’s thinking, his behavior, and his choices—without his consent. That’s not how God works. He d